Can You Keep a Secret?

My poor 8 yr old, went to go to sleep the other night and started to cry…he asked me if I COULD KEEP A SECRET…and if I would PROMISE not to tell his daddy…He was so serious, and once I swore to secrecy ( and here I am sharing ), my heart raced and I was not sure what he was going to tell me…He started by telling me something TERRIBLE happened at school, when I asked him what it was and took my own big deep breath…He told me a GIRL KISSED HIM on the cheek after school program! And another girl said she is going to tell everyone at school tomorrow…and there he was crying for 20 minutes never wanted to go back to school! WOW…my sensitive boy…and having a teenager who is at the opposite end of the spectrum and who would not have blinked at this kind of situation (but gave/gives me other challenges)…. I know this is just the beginning of  a different kind of hardship for me…and the huge tears are still falling upstairs 😦

Where did life go that these were our troubles, our biggest problems….to live thru the eyes of a child…is to really live..

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A friends notes from Oprah

  • We all have the inner power and we control that power to become what we believe in and to make a difference or a change
  • To give back to others and “never give up” attitude
  • Live your life from the truth.
  • Mistakes are not failures.  It is just God’s way of saying you are moving in the wrong direction.  It is just an experience you learn from and to change it.
  • Living in the moment and appreciating life’s blessing.
  • Be grateful for every day.
  • When someone shows you who they are the first time, Believe them!
  • There is no such thing as luck.  “Luck is preparation meeting the moment of opportunity”
  • Do it.  Do the best you can and then let it go
  • Be grateful – gratitude changes negative energy to positive energy
  • Focus on “the next right thing”
  • Belief is the lenses through which you see the world
  • Not everyone can be famous…but everyone can be great!

GRATITUDE is the inward feeling of KINDNESS received. THANKFULNESS is the natural impulse to express that feeling! Henry van Dyke

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Accept, Acknowelge and Let it Go

During and after the Oprah event, the one thing that really reached my core from listening to Oprah’s show is her repeating that when you are in a funk about something/someone and you have done all you can or your best…and/or you are having trouble coming to terms with the situation or person…take a deep breath and acknowledge what it is that is concerning/troubling you, accept it for what it is and then release that breath and let it go….Let go and let the divine energy/god/higher power or whatever your faith is and trust that it will be what it is to be fore you. Don’t hang on to it and give it this unnecessary power over you.

I guess this comes down to forgiveness as well…you can choose to hang onto something for a long time and let that feeling that is weighing you down hold you back or you can just look at it from the outside for what it is.You DON’T need to be okay with it to Acknowledge it or accept it for what it is but you do need to release it and LET IT GO…

Easier said than done, but when you repeat Acknowledge, Accept and Let Go…it’s interesting how just doing this exercise will change your breath and how you feel and magically the process of letting it go happens and you no longer are held by the emotion…you become detached from it and it no longer has the energy you were feeding….

Well this is what I took from it, others may have a different perception, but I believe you will understand what I have said and if it resonates with your core, then try it! After all nothing bad can come of it. :)

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Boston Marathon

I was shocked, angry, sad and scared today when I heard about the bombs that went off. The death of anyone during any kind of attack is horrific, but even more disturbed when you hear that one of the victim’s was an 8 year old! I have an 8 year old and I am so upset that an experience for anyone let alone a child had to end this way!

Now they are speaking of increasing security at public events and although I don’t disagree, will this really solve the problem we face today. Will these maniacs just go to schools/malls/bus stations/parks/gyms…I mean where will be safe.

What is the solution??? Can I draw back to parenting and instilling value’s, help for those that are mentally ill or cry that those that do not embrace and prove to really want to live in our country prove it before arriving?

Hate is all around us and I know this is not the last we will hear of something like this….I leave on this thought:

Just be the change, do what you can, when you can….be better than that! And whenever possible DON’T be that bystander obliviouspay ATTENTION be present. Perhaps one of us can stop something like this the next time.


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I have to say this was an experience that I will never forget. I took so much away from this event and it will leaving me thinking for sometime to come. It was interesting how most of what she said was what I have been drawn to for the last few years!

Here is a poem that she read outloud that night….it’s so hard to love yourself, but so critical that we all love truely love ourselves (faults and all).

Derek’s Walcott’s classic poem Love After Love

The time will come
when, with elation,
you will greet yourself arriving
at your own door, in your own mirror
and each will smile at the other’s welcome,
and say, sit here. Eat.
You will love again the stranger who was your self.
Give wine. Give bread. Give back your heart
to itself, to the stranger who has loved you
all your life, whom you ignored
for another, who knows you by heart.
Take down the love letters from the bookshelf,
the photographs, the desperate notes,
peel your own image from the mirror.
Sit. Feast on your life.


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Chocolate cake w/ buttercream icing & chocolate ganache-w/ a rose strawberry!

Food 002

1. Use a store bought cake mix.

2. Frost middle generously then do the sides using a recipe like this: (I used buttermilk as I did not want to go bad and had bought for other recipe )
3. Here is where I got the idea….look at the picture…Make a chocolate ganache…so easy, basically heat up whipping cream and add chocolate chips! That’s it..let cool an poor on top (be careful I pored too much too fast!) Go here:

4. Cut a strawberry into a rose and stick on top-takes 30 seconds–here’s how:

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You have 10 mins once a week…Make your own muffins..much better than cereal bars or any store bought goodie…I used a mini loaf pan here, but any muffin pan will do….

I would only use one cup of buttermilk, use regular milk…these are fast and easy…oh and I used whole wheat flour.

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